(You can find the first part of this article here.)
Positive Social Support
We all need friends and companions, and a huge part of youth is all about social interactions. What matters is who you choose to spend your time with. When you spend it in the right company— with those who remind you of Allah (swt) and the everlasting home of Paradise— they will empower your faith (eeman) and knowledge and fill your heart with inspirational reminders.
A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look to whom you befriend. [Abu Dawood & Tirmidhee]
Negative company, on the other hand, will lower your eeman and affect your morals and approach to different life situations. They will draw you to lowly desires, backbiting, and wasting time. This will only cause you stress upon stress.
Ah! Woe to Me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a Khalil (an intimate friend)! He indeed led me astray from the Reminder (this Qur’an) after it had come to me. And Shaitan (Satan) is to man ever a deserter in the hour of need. [Quran, 25:28-29]
Night Prayers (Tahajjud)
While it is tempting to spend all night browsing the Internet, watching movies, or playing games just to get over some of your worries, why not invest your night time in tahajjud prayers for a more permanent way to manage the stress? You can prepare for this special time by getting some rest during the day and going to bed early while observing the night time sunnah routine.
So while the world is sleeping, wake up and engage in a deep conversation with Allah (swt). Ask for forgiveness and for clarity about your affairs, and offload your worries. Use this period to grow a bond with your Creator.
When one third of the night remains our Rabb [Lord], Most High, Most Exalted, descends to the first sky and announces, ”Who is there to beseech Me that I may answer his prayer and who is there to seek forgiveness that I may forgive him . . .” [Muslim]
You can change your mindset and reduce stress by tapping into the great power of intention. When you feel overwhelmed with problems and self-defeating thoughts, push Shaitan out of the radar by adjusting your intention switch. You can get more reward and feel better and energised with renewed intention.
It always helps knowing that your actions are backed by great and sincere intentions such as gaining the pleasure of Allah (swt), rather than petty worldly reasons such as seeking someone’s attention. Next time you feel stressed, make an intention for His sake and push ahead, all the while purifying this intention.
De-stress Your Life
Do you seek inner peace and happiness more than anything in your life right now?
You can achieve this when you learn to manage the stress in your life. But what greater stress could come upon you than what happened to the companion of the fish, Jonah (as)? [Quran, 68:48]
Or losing your wealth, health and family as Ayyub (as) found himself? [Quran, 21:83]
Or desperately seeking help as Hajar did when moving between Safa and Marwa?
Can you imagine young Yusuf (as) separated from his family and loved ones, then sold into slavery?
Next time you are faced with inward or outward struggles, faith or fear issues, work or money matters, emotional pressure or force of stigma— seek guidance from the Quran and sunnah. One page at a time. One saying at a time. There is a message in there for you.
If you don’t find it at first, read through with attention. Then read again and reflect. You will find long lasting relief.
Try out just one of these unique remedies today!
Amina Edota is a writer, educator, and entrepreneur who’s passionately committed to inspiring Muslim youth to find their connection with Allah The Almighty. She believes there are many opportunities for youth to build important skills and gain experience that can help create great leaders and mentors for the Ummah. Her number one tip for every Muslim youth is “Utilise your youth before old age.” Join her at www.youthlyhub.com for some youthful inspiration.