Assalamualaikum Dear Brothers & Sisters,
Loneliness is gradually becoming a chronic social problem and it might lead to more serious state if one does not take effective measures on time. “According to a study from the British Red Cross, over nine million adults in the U.K. feel the same way—that’s about 1/5 of the country’s population! Loneliness is increasingly being considered a hazard to human health comparable to obesity and smoking.” Schulze.H
As Muslims, we can show others how to overcome loneliness by adhering to Islamic teachings and lifestyle.
As Allah states in the Quran: “And cooperate in righteousness and piety” (Surah Al-Maidah, Verse: 2)
1. Connecting with Allah
One of the Names of Allah is, Ash Shafi’I (the Curer). If loneliness is a disease, then only He can cure it.
Narrated Abu Hurairah that the Prophet said: “There is no disease that Allah has sent down except that He also has sent down its treatment.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari: 5678].
In the light of this Hadith, one should first seek Allah’s help. Some effective ways to connect with Allah are: pouring one’s heart in supplication to Allah while in prostration, praying during the last third of the night, reciting and pondering upon the Qur’anic verses, repenting to Allah from the seen and unseen sins.
2. Maintaining Family Ties
Keeping close contact with relatives is an obligation in Islam.
The Prophet said: “whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should unite the bond of kinship.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari: 6138] We can occasionally buy gifts for the family members, call them over the phone or pay a visit to strengthen the bond with them. Also, helping them or just being by their side during difficult times would increase our self-worthiness and attain the pleasure of Allah.
3. Participating in Islamic Gathering
Attending the weekly Friday prayer or performing the five obligatory prayers in a Masjid, would help us to be in constant touch with each other.
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah said, “When it is a Friday, the angels stand at the gate of the Masjid and keep on writing the names of the persons coming to the Masjid in succession according to their arrivals. The example of the one who enters the Masjid in the earliest hour is that of one offering a camel (in sacrifice). The one coming next is like one offering a cow and then a ram and then a chicken and then an egg respectively. When the Imam comes out (for Jumua prayer) they (i.e. angels) fold their papers and listen to the Khutbah.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari: 929] Such gatherings would help one to overcome loneliness and shun away bad companies.
4. Learning New Skills
Physical activities are highly encouraged in Islam.
The prophet said: “Any action without the remembrance of Allah is either a diversion or heedlessness excepting four acts: Walking from target to target [during archery practice], training a horse, playing with one’s family, and learning to swim.” [Reported by Tabarani]
Learning new skills in a group especially which involves physical activities like swimming, gardening, playing soccer, can boost one’s confidence and feel more energetic. This might also help to get rid of any kind of emotional exhaustion.
5. Attaining Islamic Knowledge
Seeking beneficial knowledge and teaching them to others are some commendable acts in Islam.
The Prophet said to ‘Ali , “By Allah, if a single person is guided by Allah through you, it will be better for you than a whole lot of red camels.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari: 2942]
Enrolling into Islamic courses, whether online or onsite would help one to attain Allah’s pleasure and at the same time keep their mind engaged. Later, one can teach it to others and be an active member in the society.
We should try our best to take effective measures to prevent loneliness, especially, when it leads to adopting the immoral lifestyle. By studying and adhering to the teachings of the Qur’an and Sunnah one can be an amazing example for the community to curb such social problems. One of the wonderful ways to begin the Qur’an study could be enrolling into one of the UQA (Understand Qur’an Academy) courses and study the resources.