Five Muslim Qualities That Can Bring You to Paradise

5 beautiful characteristics

One of the most beautiful things I found in Islam when I first encountered it was the emphasis on good manners. One quote a shaykh once made in a lecture particularly stuck with me:  A Muslim is made by manners.

Nowadays something strange is going on in the UK, where I live. The Islamic schools are becoming known for bad manners— not only from students but from teachers as well.

Muslims themselves prefer non-Muslim landlords because at least they’re punctual. The areas in the city that are most dirty are the Muslim areas. What kind of da’wah is this?

There’s clearly something wrong. Why is there such a massive difference between what Allah ‘azza wajal teaches us and what is being reflected in society? The answer is: manners.

The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said: No father can give a child anything better than good manners.[At-Tirmidhee]

Stop a moment and realize that your manners are one of the main reasons for Allah to enter you into His Gardens of Paradise. Do you know which manners Allah subhanahu wa ta’alaa loves to see in you? Do you want to motivate yourself to master them and to please your Beloved?

In this week’s Jumuah Special you’ll learn about five beautiful practices that can take you to Paradise.

It is as Allah says in this week’s central ayah: Allah will say, ‘This is the Day when the truthful will benefit from their truthfulness.’ For them are gardens [in Paradise] beneath which rivers flow, wherein they will abide forever, Allah being pleased with them, and they with Him. That is the great attainment. [Quran, 5:119]

Habits for the Sake of Allah

“Say please.”

“Say thank you!”

Why are almost all parents so keen on teaching these among their children’s first words? Because it is fitrah (natural inclination) for parents to want good manners from your children.

You should speak the truth, for example, not just because society considers it good manners; you should speak the truth because Allah ‘azza wajal has commanded you to do so! Allah(swt) has told us which manners are good. So develop your good habits only for the sake of Allah, remembering your relationship with Him and seeking closeness to Him while focusing on your manners.

Where Can We Find the Best Model of Good Character?

How do I know what a good character is? Look at the prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. He is the perfect example of good character, Allah says about him: You have indeed in the Messenger of Allah a beautiful pattern (of conduct) for any one whose hope is in Allah and the Final Day, and who engages much in the Praise of Allah. [Quran, 33:21]

Perfection in All You Do

The main attribute of the Prophet’s character was perfection; he strove for perfection in everything he did. When someone would speak to him, he would turn around fully to talk. When he shook hands, he was the last one to let go. When speaking with him, he was never the first to look away. From people who used to bury their own babies alive to the most compassionate, caring persons– he brought out the best in all his companions.

Likewise we should try to perfect anything we do, no matter how small the deed!

Five Practices With Which to Adorn Your Character for the Sake of Allah

1.       Be truthful.
Allah tells us in this week’s central ayah that a beautiful reward is awaiting us for our good manners.

  • Feel it: Speaking the truth is not always easy, especially if it can get you into trouble. But think about this: you’ll feel much better after you’ve told the truth— even if the consequence is blame or punishment— because you did something for the sake of Allah.
  • Motivate yourself: The Prophet said: Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to al-fujur [wickedness, evil-doing], and al-fujur leads to the (Hell) Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, a liar. [Al-Bukharee]

2.       Keep your promises.
You’re defined by your actions, not your words.

  • Feel it: We don’t really intend to break promises, yet so many things we promise are not happening. Especially with loved ones we tend to just say things and never do them, because ‘they are family anyway.’ For example promising to help your little sister with her homework. These little things all count in the sight of Allah, so ask yourself this: am I trying hard enough to keep every promise I make to anyone?
  • Motivate yourself: Allah says: Oh you who believe! Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is in the sight of Allah that you say that which you do not do. [Quran, 61:2-3].

3.       Be trustworthy.
Scenario: Your friend tells you about a personal problem and asks you not to tell anyone. You meet with another friend and it just all comes out.

  • Feel it: Are you considered trustworthy? When we say Allah is the most trustworthy, we realize that He will never let us down, will never leave our sides.
  • Motivate yourself: The Prophets of Allah were all trustworthy people and Allah declared the trustworthiness of those who were doubted by there people, for example Prophet Hud: I but fulfill towards you the duties of my Lord’s mission: I am to you a sincere and trustworthy adviser. [Quran, 7:68] Learn from the prophets and practice daily developing the habit of being trustworthy, not just in some situations. Accept responsibility and then fulfill it. When others trust you, do not betray their trust.

4.       Be a sincere adviser.
Do you know you can gain Paradise by the mercy of Allah by helping two people resolve their differences?

  •  Feel it: It’s so easy to just fire up an argument between two people by joining in and saying bad things about the other. But is this honorable? No! One of the best manners is to advice people sincerely and help them to get back together.
  • Motivate yourself: Allah says: The believers are but a brotherhood. So make reconciliation between your brothers, and have Taqwa of Allah so that you may receive mercy. [Quran, 49:10]

5.       Give with a clean heart.
One day you’re walking on the street and you’re stopped by a homeless person asking you for money for food. You either ignore him or her completely and think this person is not “real” or that they won’t really buy food. You might even wonder why this person doesn’t even have a job like the rest of us.

  • Feel it: Does thinking like this make you feel better? Wouldn’t it feel better to just give something for the sake of Allah and maybe ask him or her to buy food with it? Or buy something to eat and just give this?
  • Motivate yourself: The lesson is here to never turn away a person who asks your help—this was the character of our beloved Prophet!

A Special Trait

One of the beautiful traits of a Muslim is bravery. When it comes to watching the scariest movies, doing the most extreme sports etc. we are being brave! But what about being brave for our deen? Anas ibn Malik said: The Prophet was the best of the people, and he was the most generous of the people, and the bravest of the people. [Al-Bukharee, Muslim]

His courage can be seen in the way he told the Quraysh about Islam, how he was on the battlefield in the cause of Allah.
You and me are all in need of some level of courage in order to establish our deen in our daily lives!

So here’s a special dua the Prophet made: اَللّهُمَّ إِنِّيْ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعِجْزِ ، وَالْكَسْلِ، وَالْجُبْنِ ، وَالْهَرَمِ ، وَالْبُخْلِ ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْقَبْرِ، وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ فِتْنَةِ الْمَحْيَا وَالْمَمَاتِ

O Allah, I seek refuge in You from weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, anxiety and sorrow, and I seek refuge in You from the torments of grave, and I seek refuge in You from the trials and tribulations of life and death. (Al-Bukharee, Muslim]

Homework: Two duas for good manners

Dua for good manners: The Prophet used to say: ‘Oh Allah, I ask you for good health, chastity, trustworthiness, good manners and to be content with destiny.’ [Al-Bukharee]

Dua to seek protection from bad manners: The Prophet used to supplicate: ‘Oh Allah! I seek refuge in You from reprehensible manners, deeds and whims.’ [At-Tirmidhee]

Praying you will benefit,

Khawlah bint Yahya ~ United Kingdom

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28 Comments

  1. Rehan May 31, 2013 Reply

    Assalamalaikum, I’ve a doubt in point 5 “Give with a clean heart”.
    If you find someone on a street asking for money, then there is a possibility that the person has made asking a means for his living.
    Giving money to such a person is not allowed, right ?
    Because, although he’s not in need of money he asks for money and he’s doing wrong that way, right ?
    And, if you give money to such a person, wouldn’t it be like supporting such a person who’s doing wrong ?

    • Hayatmisr May 31, 2013 Reply

      wa alaikoum salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
      As far as I know,if your niya is for the sake of ALLAH,swt,you can even spend money for a drunkard,maybe ALLAH,swt will guide this person just bc of this.ALLAHU AELEM

    • Shakeel June 1, 2013 Reply

      Rehan Saheb, I agree with you.

  2. Badar Azeem May 31, 2013 Reply

    your article about 5 qualities ,i am very impress i learn a great knowledge,please send rights of wife about husband

  3. Farhat Zafar May 31, 2013 Reply

    Assalamu alaykum
    amazing article sister. really inspiring. In sha allah will try to implement each advice.
    May Allah bless you and reward you. ameen

  4. Jameel June 1, 2013 Reply

    JazakAllahu KHairan ,,

  5. Hasan June 1, 2013 Reply

    Jazakallah Khayr. Very informative and inspirational. May ALLAH’s guidance be with all Muslims and may we adhere to HIS Commands.

  6. Mohammad Ayub Khan June 1, 2013 Reply

    Jazak Allah Khairan and wassalam o alakum wa rehmatullah

  7. Amit June 1, 2013 Reply

    Jazzakallah khayr sister. Very imformative article. Can anyone pls send the last 2 duas in arabic with clear text so one can read and memorize it.

  8. MuQeet June 1, 2013 Reply

    Excellent approach, Mashaa’Allah.
    I will try to connect it with my blog, Inshaa’Allah.
    Vassalam.

  9. Colleen June 1, 2013 Reply

    MaShaAllah for writing an article on a much needed topic. This issue not only exists in the UK but also in the USA. Muslims need to practice manners better all over the world. JazzakAllah!!!

  10. Jamal June 1, 2013 Reply

    May ALLAH reward you with this educative article.What i can say to myself and to my brothers and sisters KNOWING IS NOT ENOUGH, WE MUST APPLY. WILLING IS NOT ENOUGH, WE MUST DO

  11. Ashraf June 1, 2013 Reply

    Jazakallah for your article..in home column it is better ifyou provide arabic script of duva…

  12. Shirin June 1, 2013 Reply

    JAzak Allah khair sister for the beautiful advice. I want to share a hadeeth, Prophet (SAW) said “There is none heavier in the scales of the Hereafter than good character”
    (Hadith narrated by al-Tirmidhi and Abu Daud).

  13. M.Z.Siddiqui June 2, 2013 Reply

    I remember a proverb I heard in my childhood that says AS THE THOUGHT SO THE MIND AS THE MIND SO THE MAN
    If THOUGHTS are governed by good deeds/vision (AQEEDA) which leads to a mannered life, may Allah grant us everything we need in the Aakhirat

  14. shabana June 2, 2013 Reply

    JzakAllah

  15. theseekerspath June 2, 2013 Reply

    MashaAllah so thought provoking and motivational article focusing on the most important aspect of our life. Thanks most specially for reminding about these beautiful duas… may Allah make us the way that is most pleasing to him… ameen

  16. Maryam Mathura June 2, 2013 Reply

    I used to be a christian and it is said in the bible” to let your no men no and your yes mean yes” in other words keep your promises. I have come across many people who promise and never deliver. That is bad. In Sha Allah, I keep all my promises. I get physically sick if I cannot keep a promise.

  17. amina remmy June 3, 2013 Reply

    Shukran Jazzillaah for these nice n good insoiring words of wisdom in regards to 5 qualities of a good Mulimah.

  18. fathima zahan June 3, 2013 Reply

    Maashaa Allah all what you have said is Haqq! this is the scenario today!! Muslims are noted for not being hygienic, not being punctual, honest etc this is just the opposite of what Allah(SWT) has told. Rectification should start at home and especially by the mother. The family is the smallest unit of the society. I hope this would be an eye opener to some of the muslims who read this.

  19. Tajudeen Omotoso June 4, 2013 Reply

    Shukran,I agree with you,the points pointed out are xter modifier for us in the south-west Nigeria not only UK Jazah Allah Ahair.

  20. shada June 5, 2013 Reply

    Assalamualaikum wa rahmutAllah wa barakatuhu. JazakAllah alkhairun for helpful article. I wanted to ask is it permissible to lie if it means being able to keep a promise? It sounds horrible writing out that statement, but i try to tell the truth and worry if that situation should arise

  21. YAQOOB November 6, 2014 Reply

    Jazak Allah , Shukran.

  22. Mohammed February 3, 2015 Reply

    Alhamdulillah, I have read many articles from UQA, but this one urged me to write comment. This is the need for today Ummah.(i,e Manners i would like to quote a proverb: WHAT IS WITHIN IS WITHOUT, If you live for others then you live for reputation. If you live for Pleasing only Allah(swt) then the you can attain the real pleasure(some) of Jannah in duniya also………….

  23. Mash-Allah…
    nice explained.
    its help me for inspiring non Muslims converting.
    thanks.
    🙂

  24. Saleem Venghat August 16, 2017 Reply

    Jazakallahu Khair, Useful article,

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      UQA_S August 17, 2017 Reply

      JazakAllahu Khair, help us spread this noble work by sharing in your circles.

  25. Najib Umar Maiturare. October 16, 2017 Reply

    shukran lak.May Allah reward you with jannatul firdaus.

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