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12 Things That Are Stopping You From Being Happy

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Are we rewarded for our good deeds in the hereafter only, or also in this life? The answer is in the Quran.

In this week’s central ayah Allah ‘azza wa jal says: Whosoever does right, whether male or female, and is a believer, we shall make them live a good life (in this world), and We shall pay them a recompense in proportion to the best of what they used to do. [Quran, 16: 97]

There’s a reward in this world and it’s called the “good life.” But what is this “good life?” The good life includes feeling tranquility in all aspects of life: Ali ibn Abi Talib radiyallahu ‘anhu interpreted as contentment. This was also the opinion of Ibn Abbas, Ikrimah and Wahb bin Munabbih. Ali bin Abi Talhah recorded from Ibn Abbas that it meant happiness. [Tafseer ibn Katheer]

Do you feel unhappiness more often than you feel joy? More important, do you know why you feel like this? Let’s take a look at the 12 things you need to release from your life if you want to feel happy.

12 Things To Let Go If You Want To Be Happy!

1.      Let go of wanting to be in control. Do you try to always bend things or people to your way, trying to control the situation and getting upset if it doesn’t seem to work? Truly trusting your affairs to Allah Al-Wakeel means you do your bit and trust He will give you the best result. By letting it go it all gets done, said Lao Tzu.  This will give you the most amazing serenity inside and it is an act of worship!
Motivation: (He is) Lord of the East and the West. There is no god but He. Take Him therefore as Disposer of your Affairs. [Quran, 73: 9]

2.      Let go of complaining. The shopping was too expensive. The weather too hot. The children too tiring. When did complaining ever help? Does complaining to others— or to yourself— make you feel honourable? A situation can only make you sad if you allow it to. Positive thinking is extremely powerful! You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses. (Ziggy)
Motivation: Look at those who stand at a lower level than you but don’t look at those who stand at a higher level than you, for this would make the favours (conferred upon you by Allah) insignificant (in your eyes). [Saheeh Muslim]

3.      Let go of always wanting to be right. Do you always want to be right, even if it ends up in an argument? This is your nafs (ego) speaking. What is more important, being right, or being kind?
Motivation: The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said, “I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right . . . (part of the hadith)” [Sunan Abu Dawud]

4.      Let go of criticizing others. What is your true intention when you criticize someone? Is it for the sake of Allah or is it for your own image or reputation?
Motivation: The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm (with glad tidings) and do not repel them (i.e. make them hate good deeds and run away from Islam). [Saheeh Bukharee]

5.      Let go of low self-esteem. A low self-image can really stand in the way of you taking action and better the world and yourself with the skills Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala gave you. Belief and good deeds make you the best of creatures. So get rid of the self-defeating mindset, you really are better than that. Why? Because Allah says so!
Motivation:
Verily, those who believe [in the Oneness of Allah, and in His Messenger Muhammad (Peace be upon him) including all obligations ordered by Islam] and do righteous good deeds, they are the best of creatures. [Quran, 98:7]

6.      Let go of blaming others. “His fault. Her fault. Not me.” Do you notice that you are always blaming others for what you don’t like in your life? Stop putting your moods and happiness in the hands of others and take responsibility yourself!
Motivation: Whosoever does righteous good deed it is for (the benefit of) his ownself, and whosoever does evil, it is against his ownself, and your Lord is not at all unjust to (His) slaves. [Quran, Surah Fussilat, ayah 46]

7.      Let go of impressing others. Don’t be someone you are not. Impressing others brings stress, impressing Allah ‘azza wa jal makes you happy and safe in the next life!
Motivation: The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: Whoever seeks knowledge in order to compete with the scholars, or to debate with the foolish, or to draw people’s attention, Allah will put him into the Fire. [Narrated from At-Tirmidhi as taken from Mishkat]

8.      Let go of attachment. Attachment often comes from a place of fear. Love and attachment are two different things.  You can love a person or even an object but you should not attach yourself to it, being left completely empty when you lose it. Without realizing it we attach our self to this world too much, to its people, to its belongings and to its places.
Motivation: O Men, if you have been worshipping Muhammad, then know that Muhammad is dead. But if you have been worshipping Allah, then know that Allah is living and never dies. [Abu Bakr radiyallahu ‘anhu]

9.Let go of your excuses. Most people who fail are the one who have a habit of making excuses. “I’m too old to learn Quran!” “I’m too young to practise Islam.” Your excuses are standing in the way of your own happiness!
Motivation:  The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: Mankind will not perish till they make excuses for their conduct to themselves. [Mishkat]

10.  Let go of the past. Tell yourself that the time to be happy is now. Everything happened for a reason. Live in the present.
Motivation: No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah’s Decree. [Umar ibn al-Khattab radiyallahu ‘anhu]

11.  Let go of your fears. “What if I become poor, what if I become ill, what if my spouse leaves me?” Fear is just an illusion. When you let go of your fears and only fear Allah, you will feel much more happy!
Motivation: It is only Satan that suggests to you the fear of his allies. So, do not fear them, and fear Me if you are believers. [Quran, 3: 175]

12.  Let go of living up to others’ expectations. Fearing other people’s opinions is something that truly stands in the way of our happiness. Do you constantly worry about what people might think of you? Pleasing Allah is easy, pleasing people is hard, subhanAllah!
Motivation:  The Prophet salallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: If anyone seeks Allah’s satisfaction at the expense of people’s anger, Allah will be pleased with him and will cause people to be pleased with him. However, if anyone seeks people’s satisfaction at the expense of Allah’s anger, Allah will be angry with him and will cause people to be angry with him. [Ibn Hibban]

Praying you will benefit,

Khawlah bint Yahya~ United Kingdom

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10 Comments

  1. Lamaa September 13, 2013 Reply

    This is truly very helpful. Because some of the points are TRUE in our day to day life.
    Jazakallah khair for sharing it…!!!

    • umna November 19, 2013 Reply

      So true, this was a very nice article, I forwarded this to my friend also.

  2. azouz September 13, 2013 Reply

    Machallah we have a lot of advises here
    But it want to add something:

    – read and learn the quran
    – don t worry and live as u want without fear
    – try to act upon these advises and not just reading tthem

  3. fathima September 14, 2013 Reply

    Subhanallah, all the articles that you all publish are so inspiring, may Allah bless you all for boosting our Imaan!!!! aameen and jazakallah khair.

  4. shahanaz September 14, 2013 Reply

    very true and very helpful.Thanks .

  5. Mumtaz Raffi September 14, 2013 Reply

    Assalamualaikum…..an absolutely amazing article…..so inspiring too……..My mind is filled with so much happiness and peace …..can’t believe that a single article can do so much wonders to the mind…..Masha Allah…praying to Almighty Allah that I live up to it …..truly a wonderful gift…..May Almighty Allah bless you with all the happiness in this world and the hereafter…..

  6. Khawlah bint Yahya September 15, 2013 Reply

    Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

    Ameen yaa Rabb. May Allah ‘ azza wa jal adorn us with contentment and reward us with the highest Jannah. I feel truly humbled by your words, may He accept it from all of us, ameen.

  7. Nazir Ahamed September 18, 2013 Reply

    Assalamou Aleikoum . we are in need of this kind of articles to consolidate our Iman and Yakeen. Allah swt alone can reward you all, for this endevour .Please continue with the help of ALLAH swt.

  8. Nasreen Khan September 24, 2013 Reply

    Assalaamu Alaikum and JazakAllah Khair once again for your wonderful article. May Allah SWT reward you immensely for all your efforts towards reforming the Muslim Ummah. Ameen.

  9. Tukur Bello Umar January 30, 2014 Reply

    Assalamu alaikum, i also enjoy this article very much, but i fear i may not be able to remember these 12 things constantly. Any suggestion for memorization?

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